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The Harvest
Of Shame
Copyright © 2004, Nate
Dekan All Scripture is from the New Century Version unless
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Little Peter and
Mary are playing in a yard sprinkler on a hot summer day.
Mom's gone inside to fix a snack when they innocently decide it
would be more fun to play without their wet, sticky, uncomfortable
swimsuits. When mom comes back out, she about has a heart
attack and scolds Peter and Mary, yelling "Good little boys and
girls don't run around without clothes, its indecent! Bad,
bad, BAD! Put your clothes back on this instant!"
God
looked at everything he had made, and it was very good."
Genesis 1:31
Young John was home watching a movie with his
mom in which women were being verbally assaulted, physically beaten,
and killed. His mom said nothing until a woman came on the
screen bare breasted, and then she immediately shut it off and said,
"that's enough of that trashy movie.” John thought "Wow that's
like mom said it's ok to abuse, beat, and even kill women, but not
to look at one naked!"
"Why are people important to
you? Why do you take care of human beings? You made them
a little lower than the angels and crowned them with glory and
honor.” Psalm 8:4,5
Elizabeth is a young adult
suffering from low self-esteem, which has manifested itself in
depression and an eating disorder. This is the result of the
negative and conflicting messages she has received all her life
about her body. On one hand she has been told that her body is
indecent and causes males to lust. She has even heard rape
victims being blamed for rape, because they are good looking.
On the other hand she feels pressured to measure up to the
unattainable image of super models and is told if she isn't
attractive enough no man will be interested in her.
Lord, you
have made me happy by what you have done; I will sing for joy
about what your hands have done. Psalm 92:4
Little
Sarah is taught she always has to cover parts of her body, even for
things like swimming, because those parts are "shameful.” When
she asks about genitals or were babies come from her parents get
very uncomfortable. She either gets in trouble, they avoid her
questions, or say "polite people don't talk about such
things.” If her parents ever refer to genitals around her they
use some euphemism such as "down there" or "Pee Pee" instead of the
correct terms as they do with nose, mouth, elbow, etc. As a
result, Sarah has learned extreme shame for her body and to not talk
about certain things. One day an adult her parents know and
trust sexually abuses her. She feels it is her fault because
her body is bad, so she does not tell anyone about it.
I
praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful
way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this very
well. Psalm 139:14
Paul is addicted to hard-core
pornography and is losing interest in his wife, she isn’t as
exciting as the pornography. Paul got started with pornography
when he was young and was just curious about what girls looked like
naked. Pornography was the only way he could find to fill that
curiosity. He started out with "soft" porn, but the too
perfect bodies and seductive poses sexually aroused him and made him
hungry for more. Therefore, he started looking for something
racier which led to even more racy and raunchy stuff. Now he
is addicted to hard-core porn and is finding even it doesn't satisfy
anymore. What is he going to turn to next that will arouse
him?
"Train children how to live right, and when they are
old, they will not change." Proverbs 22:6
What kinds of
messages are Christians teaching or receiving about the human body
today? In the examples above did Peter and Mary learn that the
bodies God gave them are good, or that they are something bad and
indecent? Did John learn, in the movie he was watching or his
mom's response to it, anything about treating others with
honor? Has Elizabeth learned that her body is a gift from God
that she should be happy and joyful about? Does she understand
that it is sin and not the human body that is the source of evils
like lust, rape, and sexual abuse? Or that her body alone is
not her identity, she has much more to be thankful for and share
with others? If Sarah had learned that her body is good,
amazing, wonderful, and something you can talk about, would she have
been more likely to tell someone about the sexual abuse that
happened to her?
Interest in the human body is common
to all people, not just young boys like Paul. That interest
can suppressed but not eliminated. That suppressed interest
can later assert itself in other ways, one of the least harmful of
which is interest in pornography. The most effective way to
prevent this is to fulfill interest in the human body and sex in
positive, healthy ways, not suppress it. Was Paul provided
with a right, positive, or healthy way to satisfy his interest in
others bodies if he had to turn to pornography to satisfy his
curiosity? Was he trained, at a young age, not just that sex
is wrong outside of God's will, but more importantly what is right,
positive, good, and wonderful about the body or sex?
This
article challenges common religious views, in this country, that
parts of the human body are indecent, and cause people to
lust. Is this really true, Godly, or Biblical?
Historically many accepted religious views are clearly not God's
will or views at all, they come from human tradition, often because
of satanic influence! Examples of this can be found in
religious wars, the fact that slavery was accepted and justified for
centuries (by many in the church), the idea that we can be saved or
justified by our good works, that we need a human mediator between
us and God to receive forgiveness, among many others to numerous to
mention. I have learned that if I start to question something
I need to listen to that inner voice and then check it against the
plum line of God's word and character, not against accepted or
currently established views. (All of God's word must be
interpreted in light of His character, which is love; otherwise we
will take things out of context. We need to study the Bible to
get to know God, not to get to know the Bible!)
The mind
goes toward its most dominating thought. This is why the Bible
tells us to guard our minds and says in Philippians 4:8 "Brothers
and sisters, think about things that are good and worthy of
praise. Think about the things that are true and honorable and
right and pure and beautiful and respected." The bodies that
God created and gave us are all of the above. Scripture also
says that we reap what we sow (Job 4:8, Proverbs 11:18, Proverbs
22:8, Hosea 8:7, Hosea 10:12, 2 Corinthians 9:6, and Galatians 6:7,
8) Thus, if we think about sex, the human body, and nudity as good
and worthy or respect that is more likely how we will react to
them. However if we think sex, the human body, and nudity are
indecent, impure, and obscene then that is more likely how we will
react to them.
This is exactly why pastors that have
pounded the pulpit against sexual immorality have often been caught
in sexual immorality, it is what they where thinking about, it is
what they sowed! We can't effectively decrease the lure of
immorality, promiscuity, or pornography by attempting to stamp them
out, outlawing them, or putting emphasis on what people shouldn't
do. While we need to point out dangers, we must put the
emphasis on positive ways of looking at and thinking about
things. We need to tell people about living in Christ.
We need to tell people the good things they can do that please God
and make life better.
I hope to show, in this article, that
shame (of the body) plays into Satan's hand and gives him what he,
and not God, desires. This is not shame over sin; it is shame
over God's pure and holy creation. As long sin is in the world
I do not believe that lust or other sexual sins will, or can, be
eliminated. However I hope I can show that body shame and
repressing non-sexual nudity is unhealthy and makes the struggle
with sexual sin worse, not better. I hope to show that a
better and more Godly way would be to intentionally develop an
attitude of acceptance and wholesome respect for all of the body
(which is God's gift for us), rather then an attitude of
shame. I won't do this just by using the few scriptures that
deal directly with nudity. I will primarily use scriptural
principles such as the purpose and effect of God's law. I will
also affirm that God created the body said it was very good and
never changed his mind! Since God has opened the way for
restoration through Jesus Christ. We also need to look at how
God intended us to live before the fall. Should we still just
accept shame as a result of the fall, or should we strive to obtain
victory over it as we do other sin through Christ, as we live out
our relationship with God?
THE
FRUIT OF SHAME
Shame and discomfort of the body
says that there is something sinful or indecent about parts of the
body, which God created, and establishes a breeding ground for
impure thoughts. This is not true; there is nothing sinful or
indecent about the human body. If there was something sinful
or indecent about the human body, there would have to be something
sinful and indecent about God! In Gen. 1:31 "God looked at
everything He had made, and it was very good." All of the
human body is part of God's good creation. God intended us to
be unashamed and have pure thoughts. His intention that
humanity be naked and unashamed is shown quite clearly in Genesis
2:25 by stating that Adam and Eve where naked and unashamed.
If this had been unimportant it would not have been mentioned!
This is God's intention for us on both a physical and spiritual
level.
Christian's are clear that sin and death would not
exist (at all) if not for the fall, but they seem to miss the fact
that shame and clothing exist for the very same reason! We
don't teach that other results of the fall like separation from God,
conflict between people, sin, death, sickness, fear, greed, envy,
selfishness, and hate, etc. are right, and should control the way we
live, when they are so clearly wrong. Why then have we been so
deceived to teach that shame of the bodies God gave us is right and
should control the way we live, when it is also a result of the
fall? Will we continue to justify away this part of how God
intended us to live because of sin? Will we toss it aside
because it doesn't fit what we been taught to believe, or because it
places the responsibility for lust where it belongs, indwelling sin,
not on others bodies? That makes us too uncomfortable; we
don't want to face that. Should the way we regard the human body be
controlled by sin that resulted in the fall or by the Holy
Spirit? Would the Holy Spirit lead us to lust after or reject
the body, or accept it as God's good and pure creation?
We
all have a natural and healthy interest about the human body, what
happens if this natural interest only continues to be suppressed
with no wholesome, non-sexual ways to fulfill it? Just look at
the warped views, sexual impurity, and crimes of this society for an
answer to that! True, because of beliefs and upbringing, some
people may think parts of the body are indecent, reject the idea of
wholesome, non-sexual, social nudity, and still keep sex within
God's framework of marriage, but will they have had a harder
struggle with impure thoughts then they would if they had been more
comfortable with the body? Moreover, while they may have kept
the sex act within God's framework, would their attitudes
about sex and the body have been as positive and pleasing to God as
they could have been? A God who is good, pure, just,
righteous, compassionate, loving, and Holy would not create
something impure or indecent that we should be ashamed of, or would
(in itself) cause us to sin, would He?! If He wouldn't, do we
need to change our attitude toward the body and nakedness? Is
it beneficial or healthy, let alone Godly, for us to consider parts
of the body, that God made, to be indecent or shameful, and the
cause or source of impure thoughts?
What we've been taught to
believe regarding the body doesn't come from God, the Bible, or the
Hebrew culture. It comes from a belief that was very dominant
in the Greek and Roman cultures during the formative years of the
Church. Simply stated part of this belief (called Gnosticism)
says that all physical matter is evil, only spiritual things are
good. This heresy creates an alienated, or negative, view of
God's creation. This is a lie, God created all physical matter
so it is very good. Further while god spoke all of the rest of
creation into existence scripture says that God physically formed
the human body out of the dust and physically breathed life into
it. That sets us apart from the rest of creation as very
special, it’s time that we recognize that.
It is only how we
use creation (or think about it) that can be evil, not creation
itself. Two of the lies of Gnosticism (1. Jesus could
not have come in the flesh, since flesh is evil. 2. Only the
Spirit is of value not the flesh, so we have no sin.) are
refuted in 1st John and elsewhere in the New Testament.
Unfortunately this heresy has negatively influenced Christian
thought toward many "non-spiritual" things most especially the human
body. I believe that the results of this heresy can also be
seen in the lack of massive Christian involvement with environmental
concerns. The Lord calls us to be good and faithful stewards
of his wonderful creation, not exploiters of it. Christians,
not "New Agers", should be leading the way in living environmentally
responsibly and taking a stand against those who exploit the earth.
(But that's another topic!)
There is little known and
interesting passage not in the Bible, but considered by some Bible
scholars to be authentic. While I don’t consider other works
to have the same importance as the Bible, I do think they can be
helpful in discerning both truth and error. This passage was
found in ancient manuscripts around the early 1900's. (These
manuscripts contain much of the Gospels and much additional that is
clearly Gnostic heresy. Although much of this “Gospel of
Thomas” is Gnostic heresy, this particular passage is interesting
because it seems to directly oppose the Gnostic thinking of physical
things being evil.) In it, right after Jesus had taught about
being as little children, the disciples asked when they would know
him and He replied, "When you disrobe without being ashamed and take
up your garments and place them under your feet, like little
children and tread on them, then you will see the son of the living
one, and you will not be afraid". I do not know if this
passage is authentic to Jesus or not, (I'll leave that for the
experts to fight over, and God to know!) although I am certain that
it is not essential to the Bible, or God would have insured it was
included. But it does raise an interesting question, which is
why I've included it in this discussion. How can we truly know
ourselves and others, let alone God, if we are ashamed of how God
created us, and what He created us to be?
Being ashamed of
how God created us, and what He created us to be, shows that shame
is a sin of pride. Only God is purely spirit, we are not God
and never will be. He created us as physical beings with
spirits, there is no reason to be ashamed of our physical, created,
being, unless in our pride, we are saying that it's not good enough,
we should be spirit, like God. Wanting to be like God is what
got Lucifer expelled from heaven, and what caused the fall of Adam
and Eve. Remember they were unashamed of nakedness before they
fell for the temptation to be like God (Gen. 3:5) and ashamed of it
only after they fell for that temptation. We are not God, but
we are God's creation and his temple!
In the Old Testament
there was temple of God built by man following God's
instruction. Imagine if after building it the Israelites had
decided that part of it was indecent and they covered it because
they were ashamed to look at it or have it be seen by others!!
Impossible! Unthinkable! You say, how could any one possibly
think part of God's temple is indecent!? Yet that is exactly
what many have decided. The Bible calls our bodies the temple
of the Holy Spirit. This temple wasn't even made by man; this
temple was completely designed, made, and given to us by God.
The Bible says in Psalms 139: 13-14 that we are marvelously made,
yet some have apparently decided they know better then God and have
declared parts of us indecently and shamefully made!
BUT WHAT
ABOUT?
There are a couple of passages some use
against nudity, so lets look at them now. Some Christians
point to Lev. 18 and say "The Bible forbids us from looking at the
nakedness of our mother, sister, aunt, etc.” This is simply an
inaccurate translation caused by some translators discomfort in
referring directly to sex, and using nakedness as a euphemism.
Biblical and language scholars agree that an accurate translation
here should read that we are forbidden to have sex with our mother,
sister, aunt, etc. Even if this wasn't the case, it is part of
the law and as such works to fulfill the purpose of the law, which
we are no longer under. (More about the purpose of the law
later. Suffice to say for now that nothing will show a sinful
creature it's sinfulness, quicker then being told not to do
something!)
The same Hebrew word 'ervah' that should be
translated as sex in Lev. 18, is also used in Genesis 9:
20-27. This is the passage where Ham's son Canaan was cursed
after Ham saw his father Noah drunk and naked. (The word naked
being used in English translations.) Again the fact that the
Hebrew word 'ervah' is used here implies something more than mere
nakedness. Also the fact that while it was Ham that saw and
reported whatever happened, it was his son Canaan that was cursed
after Noah knew "what had been done to him" also implies something
more. Others have gone into some detail on this, but what
exactly happened here can only be speculation for us, except that it
was more then simple nakedness.
Many paraphrases or
"translations" of 1st Corinthians 12: 22-25 could be more
challenging to nudity, at first look. Especially in "The
Living Bible" paraphrase. It reads, "And some parts that seem
the weakest and least important are really the most necessary.
Yes, we are especially glad to have some parts that seem rather
odd! And we carefully protect from the eyes of others those
parts that should not be seen, while of course the parts that may be
seen do not require this special care. So God has put this
body together in such a way that extra honor and care are given to
those parts that might otherwise seem less important. This
makes for happiness among the parts, so that parts have the same
care for each other that they do for themselves." However, if
this wording is taken literally (since it is an analogy of the
church, the body of Christ) it would also be saying that there are
members of your Church that you should carefully protect from the
eyes of others, that there are members of your church who should not
be seen! Certainly you can see how absurd this is, that it
could not possibly be correct!? Then what is meant by this
passage?
When commenting on the New International Version of
1 Cor. 12: 22 in "The Church in a Pagan Society. Studies in
1st Corinthians" author David Ewart wrote: "Often those
parts of the body which seem weaker are most indispensable
(v.22). One might think of vital organs such as heart, lungs,
liver, and kidneys, without which life could not go
on."
Clark's Holy Bible Commentary says, "Verse 22 'Those
members... which seem to be more feeble.' These, and the less
honorable and uncomely mentioned in the next verses, seem to mean
the principle viscera, such as the heart, lungs, stomach, and
intestinal canal. These, when compared with the arms and
limbs, are comparatively weak; and some of them, considered in
themselves, uncomely and less honorable; yet these are more
essential to life then any others. A man may lose an eye by
accident, or an arm or a leg may be amputated, and yet the body live
and be vigorous; but let the stomach, heart, lungs, or any of the
viscera be removed, and life becomes necessarily extinct.
Hence, these parts are not only covered, but the parts in which they
are lodged are surrounded, ornamented, and fortified for there
preservation and defense, on the proper performance of whose
functions life so immediately depends."
Strong's Hebrew Greek
Dictionary says the Greek word rendered "uncomely" in the KJV can
mean "shapeless.” The Vine Expository Dictionary of New
Testament Words, states that "uncomely" means "formless" in the
original language. Shapeless and formless are adjectives that
could much more easily be applied to internal organs that are
unseen, then to external organs that can be seen.
In light of
this perspective, the last part of verse 24 holds a key to a better
understanding of these verses. "So God has put this body
together in such a way that extra honor and care are given to those
parts that might otherwise seem less important.” God is the
one who has already done it! Clark writes in his commentary
that "these parts (that is, the less honorably regarded internal
organs) are not only covered (with skin by God), but the parts in
which they are lodged (this same skin and adjacent tissue) are
surrounded, ornamented, and fortified for their preservation and
defense.” Note that this commentator discusses physical
protection here - not physical concealment. There's a big
difference! One that could easily be seen in a literal
interpretation. Instead of it meaning that we are to carefully
conceal certain members of the church (who should not be seen) from
the eyes of others, it means that we are to protect, pray for, and
support members of our church! Doesn't this make a lot more
since?! And wouldn't it include church leadership, or those
who may be in the background and not often recognized, but without
whom the church could not function?
Some will say "But what
about sin?" "It is because of sin (which didn't exist when
Adam and Eve were naked) that we can't go naked." Yes, it is
true that we struggle with sin but, as we shall see, trying to shift
the responsibility of our sinful thoughts onto God's creation, which
He pronounced "very good" (Gen. 1:31) only makes the problem
worse. Society's insistence on covering our sexual parts only
serves to draw more, not less, attention to them and their sexual
functions then if nudity was accepted in non-sexual settings.
(We will take a closer look at Adam and Eve later.) Although
all of creation is bruised and suffering because of the fall, the
core or essential purity and goodness of God's creation has not
diminished. Parts of the human body did not become indecent at
the fall; sex as well did not become sinful at the fall. The
Body and sex are still God's pure and good creation, part of His
masterpiece, and gift to us. Neither are sinful, it is the
abuse and exploitation as well as the maligning and aspersion of
both that is sinful. Seeing someone naked doesn't cause
sin. Not seeing someone naked doesn't prevent or stop
sin. Our fallen, sinful nature causes sin.
THE
EFFECT OF THE LAW
The fact is forbidding
nakedness can actually increase sin! Why? Because our
sinful nature makes things that are forbidden more tempting then
those things that are not. When we forbid nakedness, because
we think it promotes impure thoughts, we actually end up struggling
with impure thoughts more than if nakedness was seen as no big deal
and simply accepted. Many cultures used to live naked until
Christian missionaries (whom I'm sure had the very best of
intentions) came along and put clothes on them. After they
started wearing clothes and were told that nakedness was sinful,
sexual immorality didn't decrease it increased! Why did this
happen? Rom 5:20 explains it. It says that "The law came
to make sin worse." We forget that nakedness does not cause
impure thoughts, sin does, and we (like the religious people that
Jesus confronted) add fuel to the fire and make sin even worse with
laws that God never intended us to be under!
Laws can control
outward actions (when they are known to be enforced), this is very
important if society is to function. But they do not control
the heart. Let's put this to a test. Follow my
instructions very carefully. Do not look at your right
hand. Now I'm telling you, no matter what you do, do not look
at your right hand. That's right I said do not look at your
right hand. You are absolutely forbidden to look at it.
You are forbidden to even think about looking at it! Now how
does that effect you? Aren't you just itching to look at your
right hand? Did you look at it? Did you want too?
Did you think, "Who is he to tell me what to do?!" Fifteen
seconds ago the last thing in the world you were thinking about or
interested in doing was looking at your right hand! But once
my "law" came in, and I told you not to look at it, didn't it
"arouse the sinful passions" in your flesh to make you want to do
the very thing, I told you not to do? Didn't it at the very
least make you conscience of your right hand, when you hadn't been
thinking of it before? This may seem like a very silly little
test, but I think it's important because it can show the power of
the law to increase sin. Why does the law do this? Why
does the law make sin worse? Because that is what it was
designed to do! It is a tutor or mirror, teaching and showing
us that there is nothing good in ourselves and leading us to Christ,
the only place we can find true goodness. A mirror like the
law can not clean us up, all it can do is show us that we are dirty
and need to be cleaned, in the case of sin only Jesus can clean us,
nothing else!
Paul talks about this in Roman's 7, when he
says that he would not have known what it was or had the desire to
covet if the law had not said "do not covet". The law was not
designed to help make us right with God; it was designed to show us
that due to our fallen, imperfect nature, we can never by our
efforts be made right with God. It is only when we accept, by
faith, the wonderful gift of grace and life in Jesus (that God
freely gives) that we can be made right with Him. When will we
learn that those who do believe in Jesus and have accepted His gift
have been freed from the law of sin and death and really believe
it?! (Being freed from the law also means being freed
from the power of sin. See 1st Cor. 15:56, Rom. 6:14 &
7:1-6, Gal. 3:1-3) I think it happens only when we are at the
end of ourselves and willing to let go of our pride. We want
to be self-sufficient. We want to be good by ourselves, be
righteous by ourselves, and be pure by ourselves. Well I have
news, we aren't! It is only by Gods grace and allowing Christ
Jesus to live through us that we can be. Not only is the law
powerless in helping us control our flesh, it stirs it up! It
is only as we let Christ live in us that sin loses its flavor, and
it is only by walking in the spirit that we won't fulfill the
desires of the flesh.
Gods law is quite able to do its
job. The Bible warns of adding to Gods law. Religious
leaders in Jesus's time had erected many laws around the Sabbath, to
ensure that people kept it holy. Jesus repeatedly defied these
man made laws and showed that those who kept the letter of those
laws where guilty of breaking the spirit of Gods law. He
showed that while these laws may have made people look righteous on
the outside, they where full of filth and corruption on the
inside.
Today there are church and civil laws against nudity
that where not established by God. These laws were intended to
keep us from lusting. Are they effective? Clearly
not! I've been to church camps where, (instead of swimming
nude) both males and females had to wear t-shirts over
swimsuits! Did this decrease the interest in sex and the
body? NO, it increased it greatly! It was absolutely
counterproductive in keeping the kids minds off the bodies of the
opposite sex, it made them more interested. Away from camp
staff, sex was about all the kids talked about! It also made
it so that the only way those kids could satisfy that interest was
sexual. I've been to nudist camps where there was far, far
less sexual talk and/or activity among kids then at church
camps. Why? Because at the nudist camp the body is
simply accepted as good and natural, therefore much interest in it
can be satisfied naturally and non-sexually.
Many on both
sides of the issue of homosexuality probably won't like this, but
think about it... Is it just coincidence that now that there
are far less opportunities for even same sex, non-sexual, nudity
among youth than there used to be (i.e. group gym showers in schools
that are hardly used anymore, nude swimming at YMCA pools, Scout
camps, and even many schools, etc.) that there is also far more
acceptance and awareness of homosexuality now? Or that even
same sex nudity now has sexual connotations, when it didn't used
to?! Which came first, the decrease of opportunities for same
sex, casual, non-sexual nudity or the broad awareness, acceptance,
advocacy and open promotion of homosexuality? I think you'll
find that the decrease for opportunities of same sex, casual,
non-sexual nudity started in the 1950's & 60's, increased
dramatically in the 70's to the present, while there wasn't real
broad, casual, awareness, acceptance, and open promotion of
homosexuality until the 1980's & 90's! It may just be
coincidence but I find it to be a very interesting one. Since
many youth now say they don't want to shower after gym class because
gays may be "checking them out" (I never heard that when I was in
school) it strongly implies that the repression of non-sexual nudity
directly increases the sexual connotations of nudity. The
connotations of this regarding children are terrifying!
Does
this imply that if nudity was widely accepted that we would loose
interest in sex? By no means the sexual urge God gave us is
very strong and healthy. He instructed Adam and Eve to be
fruitful and multiply before sin and shame destroyed paradise.
What I do believe is that if nudity was widely accepted many more
people (especially teens) would be far less obsessed with sex.
Although the influence of sin will still be in the world until the
Lords return, I do believe that if non-sexual nudity was widely
accepted peoples sexual behavior would naturally be (not perfect,
but) somewhat more in line with Gods intention for it. Why do
I believe this? Simply because repression creates
obsession. There would be an accepted non-sexual way for
people to fulfill their natural interest in, and be comfortable with
other peoples nude bodies. I saw a report on the news recently
that said people in the U.S. have more sexual partners than any
other industrial nation. This wasn't really surprising to me,
Europe as a whole is more relaxed about sex, and nudity while the
U.S. is obsessed with them. Being comfortable with,
positive about, and more relaxed (or accepting) about sex does
not equate to more sexual immorality it results in less sexual
immorality!
WE
HAVE BEEN DECEIVED
Children are not born ashamed
of their bodies. Instead, if given a chance, very young
children take great delight in being free of clothes. Sadly,
over time, we fall for Satan's deception and become ashamed of our
bodies. This shame makes parts of God's creation seem indecent
or obscene when we should just be able to accept them just as easily
as we do a forehead, elbow, or nose. Body shame focuses our
attention on the genitals and their functions, because (referring
again to Roman's 7:1-11) its our sinful human nature to want to see
what we're told we shouldn't see, and to want to do things we're
told we shouldn't do. If interest in the human body can't be
filled in a healthy non-sexual environment it is very likely that it
could be perverted in unhealthy ways such as voyeurism, pornography,
and sexual promiscuity. Such results can be clearly seen this
culture.
If the most accessible way for a child to fulfill
the natural interest in what naked bodies look like (which like
other things isn't satisfied with just one answer or, in this case,
look) is through pornography they will (and they do) look at
pornography. The problem of course is that pornography doesn't
give a realistic picture of what normal bodies look like; it is
exploitive and sexual in nature, stimulating impure sexual fantasies
in adults and children. And since it is often the most
accessible way to see the naked human body, it also reinforces the
association of nudity and sex. Pavlov would be proud!
But I ask, is God? And is pornography what you want to be the
most accessible way for your child/children to fulfill their
interest in what naked bodies look like? It has been shown
time and again that children who grow up in nudist homes have very
little to no interest in pornography plus a much more balanced and
healthy outlook on the body and sex then children who where raised
in homes were non-sexual nudity wasn't accepted and
common.
Many Christians don't think social nudity could in
any way be Godly. But I have to ask, what is Godly about being
ashamed of the bodies God has given us? What is Godly about
calling parts of the body that God made indecent?! Should
Christians be ashamed of nakedness, or should we be ashamed of being
ashamed of nakedness?! Body acceptance and nudity has been
shown to contribute to sexual morality. A study done in 1969
showed greater sexual satisfaction in marriage and stronger
marriages, among nudists then the average population. Another
work on childhood nakedness and its effect on sexual morality shows
how childhood nakedness is beneficial with self acceptance and
sexual identity. It also shows how childhood nakedness can
decrease problems with homosexuality, pornography, voyeurism,
exhibitionism, pedophilia, sexual molestation, rape, incest, and
sexual promiscuity. I remember a proud nudist parent saying
that she was told by their son's teacher that he was the only boy in
the Elementary school that could be trusted to be a hall monitor by
the girls restroom, he was the only one that didn't try to
peak! Divorce rates among nudists are also lower then in most
church dominations.
People who have positive, Godly attitudes
toward the body and sex are more likely to honor and enjoy God's
purpose for sex then those that have negative, sinful, and obsessive
attitudes. People are marrying at an older age now then in
most of history, there is also scientific evidence that (due to diet
and other factors) children are also entering puberty (with it's
increase in sexual hormones and interest) at a younger age then most
of recorded history. So it is very important for us to give
children positive, Godly attitudes toward the body and sex to
counteract what they hear from the world if we want them to live up
to God's purpose for sex. (The Bible talks much more about
adultery then it does premarital sex, if people in Biblical times
got married closer to, even before, the onset of puberty that could
be a good reason why!)
Do I think social nudity is the answer
for cleaning up sexual immorality in our culture? NO, NO, NO,
a thousand times NO! I believe it can help, but because of the
fall there will always be sin in this world. The only answer
to sin is Jesus Christ! If people know Jesus, live, and put
their trust in Him, He'll take care of the problems he needs to in
their lives. Whether it is selfishness, fear, lust,
immorality, pornography, dishonesty, drugs, racial bigotry, gossip,
gluttony, shame, etc. Philippians 1:6 says "He who began the
good work in us is faithful to complete it.” As many benefits
as I see with social nudity, I still know that efforts to directly
clean up the problems in our culture while they may sound very wise,
only clean the surface, at best, while the heart is still
dead. Only Jesus can revive and clean up the heart, Jesus must
come first!! But social nudity can help point people in the
right direction. A personal relationship with Jesus Christ and
rejecting body shame via social nudity is a powerful and positive
combination in developing positive attitudes about the body and
sexual morality.
THE
PROBLEM OF PRIDE
Col 2:20-23 says, "Since you
died with Christ and were made free from the ruling spirits of this
world, why do you act as if you still belonged to this world by
following rules like these: "Don't eat this," "Don't taste that,"
"Don't even touch that thing"? These rules refer to earthly
things that are gone as soon as they are used. They are only
manmade commands and teachings. They seem to be wise, but they
are only part of a manmade religion. They make people pretend
not to be proud and make them punish their bodies, but they do not
really control the evil desires of the sinful self." (Emphasis
mine) How does Col. 2:20-23 relate to nudity? Simple, we
have rules in this world against nudity; these rules refer to
earthly things and are manmade. They help us pretend to be
more modest and pure, i.e. not proud. These rules make us
punish and deny the goodness of our bodies. They do nothing to
deny the evil desires of the sinful self. And they seem to be
wise, while they in fact make the body more enticing to our sinful
nature! Controlling the flesh by the law is just an illusion;
we must be led by the Spirit! And the Spirit leads to Godly
freedom, not more laws, and regulations!!
Again, because of
the fall there will always be sin in this world. Including
lust for the body and other sexual sins. Col 2:23 says manmade
commands do not control evil desires. Rom. 5:20 says, "The law
was added so that the trespass might increase." If we can't
get rid of sin by self effort and the law does not control evil
desires but in fact increases them, doesn't it make sense that we
should at the very least not increase evil desires toward nudity by
establishing laws against it?! The most we can do, the thing
we need to do, is not to try to control ourselves or others with
more laws the Lord did not establish. We need to allow Jesus
to be in control of our lives and share Him, in love, with
others.
Pretending not to be proud (v.23) gets to the hart of
the problem that keeps us from depending on God alone to free us
from sin. Because we are proud we want to blame things other
than ourselves for sin (like Adam and Eve did). If we have a
law that says, "thou shalt not look upon a naked person,” we can
blame nakedness for our impure thoughts. If nakedness is
considered sinful it's easy to place blame and say, "I had impure
thoughts because I saw someone naked, in revealing clothes, or I
imagined them naked.” But, if we acknowledge that God's
creation is pure and holy, that simply seeing it could not cause
sin, and if we still have impure thoughts, then we would have to
acknowledge that the sin comes from inside us and does not result
from just seeing nakedness. Our sinful pride doesn't want to
acknowledge that, it wants something outside of ourselves to blame
our sin on. I think this is part of why God called King David
a "man after His own heart.” When David was confronted with
his adultery he didn't blame Bathsheba, he didn't say, "If I hadn't
seen her bathing naked, I wouldn't have committed adultery.” or make
any other excuses. No, instead he simply took responsibility
for his sin and said, "I have sinned against the Lord" (2nd Sam.
12:13) Adam blamed Eve and God for making Eve, Eve blamed the
serpent, we blame nudity or whatever, David took responsibility for
his sin.
WHAT
IS MODESTY?
Some Christians say, pointing to 1st
Timothy 2:9,10, that we must wear clothes for modesty. So lets
take a look at this. Paul says "I also want women to dress
modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold
or pearls, or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate
for women who profess to worship God.” The context here as
evidenced by the accompanying verses is for times when people are
gathered for worship and instruction. This would not be the
best time to be trying to attract attention to yourself since your
focus should be on God! This wasn't a ban on nudity at
appropriate times, even in church! History clearly shows that
it was custom for men, women, and children to be baptized naked,
together, in church, for at least the first four centuries
A.D. Naked baptism was also the norm before and during the
lifetimes of both Jesus and Paul. (When Jesus was baptized He,
John the Baptist, and others being baptized would have all been
naked. These and those watching would have included men,
women, and children. Some early artwork of the church clearly
shows Jesus being baptized nude (Such as the Arian Baptistery mosaic
at Ravenna. See
http://www.hp.uab.edu/image_archive/ulj/mosaic48.jpg for a
picture.), later as negative attitudes about God's creation became
more prominent in the church, the art changed, with even some of the
earlier artwork being painted over.) If Paul or Jesus had, had
a problem with this tradition they certainly would have said
something about it.
Paul had some concern for outward
appearances of modesty, but he was much more concerned with what
came from the heart. Paul knew that it is very possible to
dress very modestly and still act and think in a very immodest
way. Notice that the things Paul says not to wear are physical
such as gold, pearls, and expensive clothes, while the things he
says to wear are inner qualities such as propriety and good
deeds. The modesty which is most important, is an inner
quality or attitude, It doesn't mean dressed, it means not vain or
boastful, unassuming. Or as a quote I've seen says "Modesty
isn't measured by the yard of fabric, but rather by what a person
thinks and does." Yes I am saying it's possible to be naked
and modest. If modesty means not being vain or boastful, but
being unassuming, then someone who is simply naked and unadorned can
be much more modest then someone, in church, dressed in their Sunday
best trying to look good, attract attention, and impress
others!!
Are any swimsuits modest at any time? There is
no functional purpose for them, they don't protect you from injury,
in fact a U.S. Government study found that swimming suits increase
the chances of getting stung by sea lice or jelly fish (over
swimming nude), since they most often sting when they get trapped
between your suit and skin. They don't aid in swimming, in the
1980's the West German Olympic Swim Team found that even the tight
fitting competition swimsuits athletes wore slow down a
swimmer. (Although more recently new full body swimsuits have
been developed that decrease drag) I understand that they
often practiced nude and (unsuccessfully) petitioned to be able to
compete nude (as all athletes did in the original Olympics) at the
1984 Olympics in Los Angeles. Even small swimsuits inhibit the
proper, healthy functioning of the skin and like other tight
clothing can impede the natural flow of blood and lymphatic
fluid. All they do is cover parts of the body, with no purely
functional reason for doing so. Who really wants or likes to
wear something wet and clammy anyway! It is much better health
wise when you come out of the water, to have all of your body dry at
an even rate, then to have something wet and cold wrapped around
parts of your body.
I personally find swimsuits, not nudity,
to be offensive. Why? Because covering parts of the body
when it is not logical to do so, such as for swimming, sunbathing,
working out, etc. only draws more attention the parts covered (with
colors and patterns) then if everyone just swam, sunbathed, and
worked out naked. Think about it, doesn't covering just a
small part of the body really just draw attention to it, and
highlight it? (For example: do not attractive bracelets or
watches on peoples wrists draw more attention and interest then bare
wrists? Also is your attention normally drawn to ears or to
earrings?) There is simply no common sense reason to wear any
clothing in the water or while sunbathing!! (Make that warm
water; full body thermal suits are (of course) necessary protection
to keep people from freezing in extremely cold water.) The
only reasons people wear swimsuits are either because they want to
attract attention or because they believe that part of God's
wonderful creation is indecent and shameful! What
dysfunctional clothing such as swimming suits really do is express
contempt or discomfort (lack of acceptance) for parts of the
body.
A
LITTLE HISTORY
Clothing specifically designed
and mandated for swimming has only been around since the
1830's. Before that when people swam nudity was the norm, not
the exception. Modesty is also economic. Today as in the
past, nakedness is simply part of life for many simple, primitive
cultures. In third world countries nakedness is often a part
of their poverty. Nude beaches were more common before the
wall fell in Eastern Germany then they are now. Why?
Because whole (even extended) families where so poor that they often
lived in one room. There is very little modesty possible in a
situation like that. So when they went to the beach, many of
them saw very little reason wear clothes, let alone spend some of
the very meager amount of money they had to buy something just to
wear in the water! While nudity is still very common and
accepted in Germany, it is not as common now in eastern Germany as
it was before the wall fell. Could that be because they see
nudity as a sign of being poor rather than of freedom, and they
don’t want to be seen as poor?
The fairly recent (in terms of
world history) level of privacy attained by the luxury of indoor
plumbing and separate bedrooms for children has brought a level of
modesty never possible before. Communal and/or family baths
where common even in the repressed dark ages, due to the physical
difficulty of providing hot water. (That is when they bathed;
the dark ages was another time when those in power and control
proclaimed to the masses that the human body is indecent and
sinful. Though the level of body modesty and privacy that is
taken for granted by most today, wasn't available to most
then.) It was also common for whole households (along with any
guests) to sleep naked in the same room until the sixteenth
century.
In art, the acceptability of nudity changes with the
times and is not always deemed erotic or offensive. An example
is a fresco from the Brancacci Chapel in the church Santa Maria del
Carmine in Florence, Italy by the Renaissance artist Masaccio.
This fresco (entitled "The Expulsion from the Garden of Eden") was
painted in 1426-27 with fig leaves added in the 1670s to conceal the
nudity of Adam and Eve which were recently removed during a
restoration. I used the altered version in the title section
of this article go to
http://gallery.euroweb.hu/tours/brancacc/expuls.html to see the
difference. The famous Sistine Chapel in Rome is another
excellent example of this. Michelangelo originally painted
many nudes that had clothing painted over them by another artist
many years later, which have since been restored to the
original.
Historians, the Bible, other ancient texts, and art
of the period all tell us that nudity was much more common in
Biblical times. Plain logic does as well; cloth was made by
hand on very primitive looms that were nothing more than a
rectangular frame with handmade yarn stretched across it.
Obviously this method of making cloth would have been very hard,
time consuming, tedious, and expensive. Most people had very
little beyond the basics of food, clothing, and shelter, clothing
would have probably taken at least as high a percentage of their
income than cars, and all of their related expenses take of
ours! Even then most people only had a couple outfits, if
that, not 10, 20, 30, or more outfits that many people have
today.
Maintaining clothing was not easy either. They
cleaned their clothes (as is still done in some parts of the world
today) by beating them on rocks in a stream, this is not only hard
work, it also destroys the fibers. Slaves, captives, and the
impoverished, were usually nude. People who owed money would
give their clothes as a promise of the money they owed (see Exodus
22:25-27). Heavy and dirty work such as field work, brick
making, and fishing, (see John 21:7) was also usually done nude
because it made working more comfortable and it saved wear and tear
on their clothes. Children were often naked as well.
Wealthy business, community, and religious leaders and their
families were very likely the only people who could afford to wear
clothing all of the time. Clothing was (and still is) a symbol
of social, economic status, and pride. With the wealthy
lording it over the poor and the poor trying to imitate the
wealthy.
Before, during, and after the New Testament time
athletes trained and competed in the nude. (As they should do
today!) Paul used these competitions as positive examples at
least six times, (Acts 20:24, 1 Cor. 9:24-27, Gal. 2:2 and 5:7, 2
Tim 4:7-8, and Heb 12:1) with no hint of condemnation regarding
nudity. The athletes where nude because it had been proven
that clothing hindered their performance, Paul referred directly to
this in Heb. 12:1 (NIV) when he said "Therefore since we are
surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off
everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and
let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us."
(Emphasis mine) Instead of condemning it, Paul directly used
the athletes nudity as a positive example for us!
There is no
"proof text" one way or the other for something like a "nudist club"
Nakedness was too common. (And like many other aspects of our daily
life God didn't need to give specific instruction on this. His
Spirit, principles, and love are enough to guide us.) Clubs
for the purpose of social nudity (only) would have been absurd in
that society. If athletes trained and competed nude, today in
our society, if families bathed together and slept nude in the same
room today, if people today normally went to the beach or pool
nude, worked out at the gym or health club nude (By the way gym
means "place to be naked" in the Greek, so perhaps the ancient gym's
and bath's could be considered "nudist clubs".), sunbathed in
the park nude, worked in the garden, field, house, or fished nude,
hiked and camped nude, "nudist clubs" probably wouldn't exist today
either, it would be absurd! Nudity would not be an issue in
such a society, it would just simply be accepted. Think how
much money and other resources could be saved on clothing and
laundry! Kids could even play in the mud to their hearts
content, then simply get hosed off, rather than getting in trouble
for ruining their clothes.
PURITY
CANNOT BE BUILT ON A FOUNDATION OF
SHAME!
Hopefully, as Christians, we all want to
develop healthy, Godly attitudes toward the human body. But if
we are taught that parts of the human body are dirty and indecent,
it is extremely difficult to develop those healthy, positive, God
pleasing attitudes towards it. Insisting that nakedness can
only be immoral makes as much sense as insisting that fire can only
destroy life and property, and has no useful or redeeming
purpose. Everything can be used for good or evil, a hammer can
be used to build or destroy. The same is true for nudity, in
pornography and strip clubs nudity is exploited to arouse
lust. In most "Christian" settings today nudity as not allowed
and is called indecent, resulting in feelings of shame AND
lust. However at a beach, swimming pool, gym, nudist club, at
home, and other non-sexually charged environments nudity can be used
to help us become more comfortable with, accept, and develop respect
for the body God gave us. Although being comfortable with
nudity doesn't eliminate sexual lust it does help take some of the
sexual mystery, allure, and temptation away from the body. We
may enjoy what we see everyday but we don't tend to lust, as much,
for what is not forbidden. Make something we are attracted to
forbidden and we will lust for it! Teach us something is
impure and we will have impure thoughts about it. The
repression of nudity INVITES the sexual exploitation of
it!
Our bodies and minds are trainable. As a child I
was exposed to potato chips and I quickly developed a taste for
them. My body and mind were trained to respond positively to
them. Now just the thought of potato chips makes my mouth
water. If I had been born into a different culture, my body
and mind could have been trained to respond, in the same way to
dried seaweed. (I have seen Japanese eat dried seaweed like it
was potato chips!) Unfortunately in this culture we have been
trained to automatically associate nakedness with lewdness and sex,
and to respond to nakedness with lewd sexual arousal. Cultures
where nakedness is common do not associate nakedness with lewdness
or sex only, as this culture does. Truth is universal, if
nakedness (by itself) in other cultures does not automatically cause
lewd sexual arousal or impure thoughts, then the belief in this
culture (that it does) is simply put, a lie! Nether is this
belief supportive or helpful in our quest to lead pure and Godly
lives. It is clearly NOT how God would want us to respond to
the goodness of His creation. We should see the human body as
God's pure and good creation, not as something that leads to
temptation. As we develop a more Godly view of the human body
our main source of sexual arousal should become the love and
relationship we share with our spouse, not just a body!
As
Christians (especially if we see the body as a source of temptation)
we need to retrain ourselves to have respect for the body God has
given us, and to see nakedness in a non-sexual, wholesome, and pure
way. To do this we must interpret what the Bible says about
the body and nakedness in light of God's character, not current
views. Nothing will teach you that nakedness can be non-sexual
faster than getting naked regularly in wholesome, non-sexual, social
settings. However, since Rom. 14:23 says "Anything that is
done without believing it is right is sin.” I would caution
that you do need to accept and believe that nakedness can be
beneficial and right before you try social nudity. If you
where to try social nudity when you believe it is sinful, that would
be sin for you.
But, this does not mean that you wait until
you're comfortable with it before you do it! Believing
something is good is different then being comfortable with
something. Whether it's riding a bike, driving a car, playing
a sport, using a computer, cooking, or anything new, you won't
become comfortable with it until you've done it. The good news
is bodies are very basic to us; most people are comfortable with
non-sexual nudity within 5-30 minutes, so that part is easy!
The hardest part is BEFORE you get nude with others, once you’ve
done that you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it long before you
did! Study on this more, pray and seek God's wisdom about it,
and when you believe it is right so you can do it in faith, do
it.
If we have started to believe something contrary to what
we have been taught our whole lives it will make us
uncomfortable. Because of that conditioning, even if you've
started to believe that nakedness can be pure, wholesome, and
beneficial, you won't become comfortable with it until you
experience it. Actions speak louder than words. Think
about it. What would happen if you tell yourself that all
parts of the body are pure, wholesome, and acceptable, but you never
change your actions to reflect that? What if you never
experience nudity, around others, in a wholesome, non-sexual
environment? Wouldn't the only way left to experience or see
nudity be in a sexual environment? And wouldn't you still have
that constant message coming from the world that equates nudity only
with sex? So wouldn't your response to seeing nakedness stay
pretty much the same? Don't you need to have something to
counteract the world's message? (Seaweed is very nutritious
and I could tell myself that seaweed is good for me all I want, but
I'll never experience any benefits from it until after I start
eating it!!)
MOVING
IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION
Since pornography is most
commonly associated with nudity in this culture it has a strong
sexual cue. If however non-sexual things like athletics,
swimming, camping, working, and relaxing around the house and yard,
etc., were even more commonly associated with nudity, nudity (by
itself) would loose much of its sexual cue. Does that mean we
wouldn't be sexually attracted by someone's physical
appearance? Well let me ask this, do you currently find
someone attractive when they're clothed, or only when they're
nude? Of course you find people to be attractive when they're
clothed not just nude! This really wouldn't change.
However, since non-sexual nudity does remove some of the mystique
from the body it does take some of the attention away from the body
and places it more on the whole person.
If you are struggling
with lust or addiction to pornography, I believe nudism can be a
help (with direction from the Holy Spirit). There is an
outstanding article that was published in Leadership magazine years
ago, that told of a pastor's 10-year struggle with lust,
pornography, and strip clubs. This article doesn't mention
social nudity, but it does mention some things he found that helped
him overcome his addiction. I believe non-sexual, social,
nudity relates to some of these. He said to demythologize
pornography. Photos in pornography use only the best looking
models, and are still retouched, staged and are therefore
unrealizable. (Some centerfold models have said they almost
didn't recognize themselves after all the retouching that is done to
their photographs. Surprise, surprise, the perfect body in the
centerfold is an illusion!) With non-sexual, social nudity
bodies are not retouched or staged and represent a broad spectrum of
body types. He said to recognize the humanity of your
victims. With social nudity you are not just passively looking
at anonymous nude bodies, you are interacting with and getting to
know people on a human level. He also said to study sex in
perspective. Social nudity can definitely separate nudity from
an automatic association with sex and change your perspective.
Many people have been freed from bondage to pornography, by
developing greater respect for the body through social
nudism.
Being unashamed and comfortable with nakedness does
not guarantee purity of thought. We still have indwelling sin,
and we don't live (day to day) in a supportive world that has
healthy attitudes about the body. We live in a world that is
constantly feeding us very unhealthy and sinful messages about the
body. Our indwelling sin still feeds on those messages and we
may also have 20, 40, 60, or more years of that negative programming
in us. It requires trust in and direction from the Holy Spirit
plus, conscious, deliberate effort, to unlearn a sinful reasoning
process or emotional response and replace it with a Godly one.
But the effort (of training ourselves in righteousness) is worth
it. It's a very important step in the right direction because;
shame does guarantee impurity of thought!
As mentioned above,
most everyone becomes comfortable with social nudity very quickly,
when they are introduced to it. When you are nude in a group
of nude people it seems so natural that you tend to forget about
it. Kids going through puberty (especially males) have the
most resistance to nudity, if they aren't used to it. They are
already so overly sensitive about their bodies, the changes they are
going though, and the new feelings they are having, that if they
weren't raised with nudity as part of their life, the very idea of
it grosses them out! Have patience, if they can see the value in it,
and you set a good example, it may not take them too long to adjust
either. Even if they are negative or unsure about it before
hand. Younger kids are a different story, when they go to a
nudist club or beach, etc. the first time most of them take to it
instantly, with great delight.
A
REASON TO CHANGE
Some think nudists get a thrill
over seeing others naked, but it isn't really exciting or arousing,
frankly most people in this fallen, imperfect world don't have
perfect bodies and look better with their clothes on! So why
would anyone want to go naked or see others naked? For me
learning to see the bodies God gave us in a more positive wholesome
way is reason enough, but there are also others. It frees
people from false shame and seeing that virtually no one lives up to
the TV, Hollywood, beauty magazine, or Playboy ideal also helps
people feel more comfortable with and accept their bodies.
Most nudists find being naked around others very freeing, it seems
to release a lot of stress and pressure. Could this be because
clothes create a barrier, and that people at some level have a need
to know what others bodies really, honestly look like ("good
looking" or not)? Nudity removes a barrier between people of
the false masks and images we create (with our clothes) and leaves
us with only what God has created. Forbidding nudity keeps
that barrier firmly in place. Many say nudity allows us to
relate more with people, rather than the identities their clothes
create, such as rich, poor, doctor, police, priest, waitress, blue
collar, white collar, etc. It is also more comfortable; it
just feels good for many activities. Once you've gone swimming
or sat in a spa without a swimsuit you'll never want to wear one
again!
For Christians the reason to change our attitude
toward and accept nakedness is so we can allow Christ to renew our
minds with the truth that God designed the human body. That it
is pure, wholesome, decent, Holy, acceptable, and not a source of
shame or lust. (Do not conform any longer to the pattern of
this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Rom. 12:2, Live by the Spirit and you will not gratify the desires
of the flesh Gal. 5:16). Why would God want us to be ashamed
of His creation that He pronounced was very good? Satan wants
us to stumble and fall, not God. I believe that, Satan wants
us to be uncomfortable with our bodies, not God. Satan wants
us to have impure thoughts, not God. Satan wants to distort
and corrupt everything beautiful of God's. Satan also wants us
to tempt us, in our pride, to want to be like God rather then being
content to simply be Gods eternally and completely loved
creation.
Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed when they
were in a right relationship with God. (Gen. 2:25)
Thanks to what Jesus did on the cross and through the resurrection,
those who have accepted Him into their lives have been restored to a
right relationship with God ( Rom.5:10, Eph. 1:7, 1st Cor. 6:11,
Tit. 3:5, 2nd Cor. 5:21, Col. 3:3, Rom. 5:17 etc., etc.).
Every sin is a perversion of truth and part of God's truth is that
everything He created is good, pure, and decent. I believe
that those who are ashamed of the body have accepted a lie of Satan
and follow error not truth. Not only do I believe that
nakedness is not a sin, but I believe that being ashamed of
nakedness is a sin. Adam and Eve were only ashamed after they sinned
and died spiritually, not before.
BACK
TO THE BEGINNING
Ah yes, about Adam and
Eve. Why does the Bible say that their eyes were opened and
they realized they were naked, after the fall? They where not
blind before the fall where they? So how where their eyes
opened and what were they really ashamed of? Good questions,
the true answers only God knows. Any answers we give can only
come from reasoned speculation. Since the Bible often uses
physical things to illustrate spiritual truth, I believe that the
answer is spiritual. I believe that it was their spiritual
eyes that were opened and their spiritual nakedness that they where
ashamed of, not their bodies. After the fall they could see
that (or they realized that) all of their thoughts, motives,
actions, and deeds, etc. were open and exposed (naked) before
God. They had no reason to be ashamed of any of these things
before the fall, now they did. This is what they were ashamed
of, not the bodies God gave them! The physical nakedness here
is also an illustration of spiritual nakedness. They had no
more reason to be ashamed of their bodies after the fall then they
did before the fall. They did have reason to be ashamed of
their thoughts, actions, and disobedience to God! They where
spiritually naked and ashamed. We assume otherwise, because
we've been taught otherwise, we've been taught to associate
nakedness with sex (especially sexual immorality), pornography, and
sin! At the time in which Moses wrote Genesis many other
things (both positive and negative) where associated with
nakedness. Three things were closely associated with shame and
nakedness that I believe fit this context very well, those are
poverty, slavery, and captivity. I believe this illustrates
that they went from the riches of being spiritually alive to the
poverty of being spiritually dead, and from being free in God to
being a slave of and captured by sin, from being unashamed to being
ashamed (not of their body per say, but) of their exposed, sinful,
dead spiritual condition.
In Gen. 3:7&8 Adam and Eve
where not standing around with fig leaves only covering their
genitals, as depicted in much Christian art! They first made
aprons of fig leaves (I realize it may have been different back
then, but most of the aprons I've seen cover the front from about
the neck to the knees, except for the arms. That covers a lot
more skin then most of the paintings of Adam and Eve do!) then
they hid from God in the trees! They where like children
afraid of getting caught. When a young child has done
something wrong and is afraid of getting caught he/she will often
run and hide under a bed or in a closet and try to cover themselves,
so mommy and daddy can't find them. Any notion that their
consciences were appeased with a single fig leaf over the genitals
is ridiculous, and not what the Bible says! They knew what
they had done was very wrong; they wanted to hide and not be
found! When God called them out they did not confess their
sin, they tried to cover it up by placing blame and making excuses
(again, just like children).
Why does the Bible specify "fig"
leaves rather than just leaves or naming some other kind of
leaf? The original Hebrew word used here can also imply
excuses!! Because of sin they had become self righteous,
independent, would not admit they were at fault, they blamed each
other and Satan, even God!, and made excuses for what they had
done. Many people say that we can't go naked because God made
Adam and Eve clothes in Gen. 3:21. That is true He did make
them clothes, but He also did not say or command that they should
never go naked again, then or anywhere else in the Bible. In
fact God later specifically commanded Isaiah to go naked among the
people (For three whole years no less! Isaiah 20:2-4.) God
would not command Isaiah to sin or do something that would cause
others to have impure thoughts, would He?
So why did God make
clothes for Adam and Eve? On the practical side, they were
being cast out of paradise and would now need something for
protection. But much more importantly I believe that this is
again a spiritual illustration. I Believe it shows that
humanity’s feeble attempts to remedy sin are not sufficient and
points to Christ, who is our righteousness. Prior to sinning
they where naturally righteous, before God, and in no need of
covering (spiritual or otherwise). This can illustrate that
after they sinned they tried to provide their own covering (or
righteousness). God then showed that this is not acceptable,
it is still only He that can provide our righteousness (covering),
our efforts will not and cannot do it. Since they were no
longer naturally righteous, another way had to be provided (Jesus),
what He did next pointed to Christ.
God did not make their
clothes out of more leaves, cotton, any other plant fiber, or even
synthetics, like most of the clothes we wear today. He made
them clothes from animal skin. This implies that He killed an
innocent animal, showing (from the beginning) that innocent blood
had to be shed because of sin. This could have even been an
animal Adam and Eve cared for, as well as the first example of
physical death that they saw. The blood sacrifices of animals
covered sins (as illustrated here). However the sacrifice of
Jesus didn't just cover sin, it took away our sin and made us
righteous again! If any one can be free from shame it should
be Christians who have accepted Christ into their lives and whose
sins have been taken away at the cross (John 1:29, Heb. 9:23-28, 1st
Tim. 1:15,16, Heb. 10:10-14, 1st Pet. 3:18, etc., etc.) and whose
spiritual life has been restored through the resurrection (Rom.
6:23, John 5:39,40, John 11:25, Rom. 5:10, Col. 2:13, etc.,
etc.).
You may say that these spiritual illustrations I've
described are nothing but speculation. I would agree, I will
also point out that saying Adam and Eve were ashamed because of
their genitals, sexual desire, or any type of sexual sin is also
nothing but speculation, the Bible doesn't say that. It does
say that God commanded them to be fruitful and multiply before the
fall and it doesn't record any other people in the garden that they
could have even had sexual desire for, let alone sex with, outside
of God's will. In the context of husband and wife sex and
sexual desire is good and blessed by God. Male and female
genitals are made good by God; they are inherently good in and out
of the context of sex. Adam never said he was ashamed because
he desired sex, or because of his or Eve's genitals. He said
"I was afraid because I was naked, so I hid.” To say anything
else is to speculate. There is no Biblically sound or
justifiable reason to speculate that Adam and Eve's shame was
directly related to sex, or the genitals. I believe that there
are Biblically sound and justifiable reasons to speculate that it
was due to spiritual exposure.
WHO
DETERMINES?
Something else remains in the story
of Adam and Eve. When they were living in a dependent
relationship with God it was He and not themselves who was
determining right and wrong for them. It was God's intention
that they always live this way. He was to be their source for
everything, their God. As long as God was their only source,
questions of right and wrong would not have been a concern or even
dawned on them. Only God (not we) has the rightful authority
to determine right from wrong. The temptation they fell for
was to know (or determine) right from wrong for themselves and
therefore be like God. (See Gen. 3:5) God never told
them they should be ashamed of nakedness. God never told them
nakedness was wrong, they did that themselves. God never told
them that they should be ashamed of nakedness, they determined that
on their own! When Adam said he was afraid because he was
naked. God did not agree with Adam and tell him that he was
right to be ashamed of nakedness. Far from it! God
rebuked Adam by asking "Who told you that you where naked? Did
you eat from the tree I told you not to eat?” (Gen. 3:11)
Adam's shame showed that something was wrong, not right.
We
have followed Adam and Eve's example. God never told us that
parts of the human body (including the genitals) are indecent.
God never told us that simple nakedness, in itself, would lead to
sexual temptation. We (with Satan's prompting) told ourselves!
We determined for ourselves that we know better then God!!!
What does scripture say about this kind of attitude? Look at
the following scriptures; "You turn things upside down, as if
the potter were thought to be like the clay! Shall what is
formed say to him who formed it, "He did not make me"? Can the
pot say of the potter, "He knows nothing?” (Isaiah 29:16)
and " 'Woe to him who quarrels with his Maker, to him who is
but a potsherd among the potsherds on the ground. Does the
clay say to the potter, "What are you Making?' Does your work
say, "He has no hands"? Woe to him who says to his father,
"what have you begotten?' or to his mother, What have you brought to
birth?' “ This is what the Lord says - the Holy One of
Israel, and it’s Maker: Concerning things to come, do you question
me about my children, or give orders about the work of my
hands? It is I who made the Earth and created mankind upon
it.’" (Isaiah 45:9-12) "When people are tempted, they
should not say, 'God is tempting me.' Evil cannot tempt God,
and God himself does not tempt anyone. But people are tempted
when their own evil desire leads them away and traps them.
This desire leads to sin, and then the sin grows and brings
death. My dear brothers and sisters do not be fooled about
this. Every good action and every perfect gift is from
God. These good gifts come down from the Creator of the sun,
moon, and stars, who does not change like their shifting
shadows." (James 1:13-17)
God tells us that it is our
own evil desires that lead us to temptation, but we take the
responsibility for our evil desires and blame them on God when we
say the human body causes lust! Scripture says God will not
tempt us. It also says the human body is a perfect gift from
God that he said is very good! There's a limerick that
expresses most Christian's attitude about the body pretty well, "It
was highly unseemly of God to have made us so vulgarly odd; Were He
truly refined, He'd have surely designed us a more tasteful
(G-rated) bod. Romans 9:20 says, "You are only human, and
human beings have no right to question God. An object should
not ask the person who made it, "Why did you make me like
this?” "But we in our sinful self-righteousness and pride have
said in essence, "It's not my fault I have impure thoughts, if God
had designed things differently I wouldn't have thoughts like
that." What utter and complete sin!!!!
Wearing clothes
also makes us like God in another way. When we are simply
naked all we have is what God gave us (with nothing of our own
design or making), just like the animals, the plants, and the rest
of God's creation. But when we put on clothes, we become our
own creator. With our clothes we, not God, create how we
look. We create part of our identity, our self-image, and how
we feel about ourselves, when we should be trusting God for all of
those things. Clothes are an expression of self-control, not
God-control, and are therefore a continuation of original sin, not a
ceasing of it! Clothes are a symbol of sin, not nudity!
If there was no sin, there would be no clothes, at least not because
of sin and shame. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that
we shouldn't wear clothes, to function in this world we have to,
(Earth no longer has the perfect climate of Eden.) and just as God
never told us not to ever go naked, He never told us not to wear
clothes! I'm also not saying that we shouldn't be
creative. Far from it, we are the expression of a very
creative God, we can express that by being creative ourselves.
What I am saying is that it is good and healthy to spend time naked,
without our clothes, masks, and self-created identities. It is
good to spend some time just being who God created, remembering that
is He and not we who created us, after all. I think this is
why many people say they feel closer to God when naked.
I'm
also saying that we should not put restrictions on ourselves or
others that God did not establish. Isaiah 29:13 says, "These
people show me honor with words, but their hearts are far from
me. Their worship of me is worthless. The things they
teach are nothing but human rules." Jesus quotes it in Matt 15:9 and
Mark 7:7. Jesus also said of teachers of the law in Matt 23:4,
15 "They make strict rules and try to force others to obey them, but
they are unwilling to help those who struggle under the weight of
their rules." "How terrible for you, teachers of the law and
Pharisees! You are hypocrites! You travel across land
and sea to find one person who will change to your ways. When
you find that person, you make him more fit for hell than you
are." Clearly we should not be adding to God's law
restrictions that He did not put there!
PUTTING
ON BODY ACCEPTANCE
Being uncomfortable with
nudity isn't always an issue of morality. I've talked with
many people about the moral issues and had them agree, but not act
on it. Sometimes it's fear, (because it's new to them and goes
against how they have been conditioned) but it can also be a poor
body image that stops them. They don't think they look good
enough to go nude around others. Believe me nudist clubs and
beaches are not filled with super models! Far from it, there
are all types of body shapes and sizes, most being very
average. I have seen disabled in wheelchairs, disfigured, and
people who have had limbs or breasts removed at nudist clubs.
I have seen good-looking fit people and unfit people that are too
thin or too large for optimum health at nudist clubs. They
have found a place where they are accepted as they are and could
learn to feel better about and accept their bodies.
No matter
what shape your body is in, it is still wonderful. Getting
over any fear of being nude can help you realize that. Psalm
139:14 says, "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully
made.” He made all of us wonderfully but until you decide to
believe that, you will not know the freedom of being thankful to God
for, accepting, respecting, and being comfortable with your
body. Overweight people tend to look better nude because there
are no belts or straps pulling the body into unnatural shapes.
Seeing all types of bodies naked can help you to accept the body God
gave you, you'll probably be amazed at how quickly you will become
comfortable and start to accept your body more. I encourage
you to step past your fears and try social nudism; I believe you'll
discover a wonderful new inner freedom and many other
benefits. It is those who don't think they look good enough to
go nude that gain the most from it in terms of accepting their
bodies. People who are self-conscious about their body find
they are far more comfortable, and less self-conscious at a nudist
club than at a regular pool or beach in a swimsuit.
Women
usually have more reluctance about trying social nudity than
men. This is often because they are more self conscience about
their looks, since women's bodies have been sexually objectified
more then men's. They are concerned about how they'll compare
to other women and that they'll be ogled by men who only have sex on
their mind. When they find out that they are just as normal as
other women (There are no super model, perfect bodies apart from
cameras and makeup, etc.), and that men aren't overcome with lust at
the sight of nudity, they often find social nudism even more
personally liberating and freeing then men. They feel that in
social nudism they are more truly accepted as they are, rather then
for the image projected by clothes, makeup, etc.
For males
(especially teens) there is a very common fear of becoming sexually
aroused and getting an erection when at a social nudist club or
beach. To the surprise of many men, there is little need to be
concerned. First, the reality is that seeing an attractive
lady nude at a pool or beach is less sexually arousing then seeing
the same lady in a bathing suit, or an attractive evening dress
since the bathing suit, or dress, etc., both attracts attention and
leaves a man wondering exactly how she looks without it!
(Although the body is obviously involved in sex, in healthy,
lasting, sexual attraction the primary source of attraction is
personal or relational, not physical. Nudity in a social,
non-sexual atmosphere lessens this cultures over emphasized draw of
physical attraction and naturally places greater importance on
personal and relational attraction.) Non-sexual, social,
nudity simply doesn't excite the imagination nearly as much as a bit
of cloth does! Second, the normal state of the penis is
flaccid not erect whether a male, or the people around him, are nude
or clothed. (Most men tend to overestimate their tendency to
get involuntary erections).
However the reality is
spontaneous erections still do occur, for most men over 30-35 less
frequently, but for teens and younger adults they can be frequent,
completely spontaneous, embarrassing, and happen at the most awkward
times. While an erection does indicate sexual arousal, that
arousal may be totally unconscious (in fact it usually happens
during sleep), or fleeting and beyond the males control, it
may even be caused by sensual things such as a breeze on the
body, or the feeling of the sun coming out from behind the clouds,
etc. It is a function of the body designed by God and
therefore good in itself (it is what someone does with or without an
erection that can lewd or offensive, not the erection itself).
Ideally they should be accepted as a normal, and expected body
function that should simply be ignored (apart from any lewd
behavior). If any male (but especially a younger one) is told
he is required to cover or leave a nudist club or beach simply
because of a uncontrollable, spontaneous body function (rather than
because of controllable behavior), it makes him even more
self-conscious and uncomfortable about erections. It is also
inconsistent to communicating a message that the whole body is good
and acceptable.
However at many nudist clubs and beaches, in
the U.S at least, erections are not usually simply ignored and
accepted as normal. Even teens getting erections (which should
be expected), without lewd behavior, can result in the teen being
asked to cover up, or even he AND his family being asked to
leave. So, if a man, or boy, finds himself getting an erection
while at a nudist club, it is WISE as well as polite and respectful
of others possible feelings about erections for him to lay on his
stomach for a while, swim, put a towel in his lap, or otherwise
cover it, and think about something else until it disappears.
(Many naturists do choose to simply accept erections in more private
family/friends situations where they know no-one will be offended by
it.) Once again the penis is flaccid most of the time and
erections don't happen as often as most (even younger) non-nudist
males imagine they will. Even so, the attitude about them at
many clubs is one of the primary reasons many male children (even
those raised going to nudist clubs from infancy) always wear at
least shorts outside the pool and hot tub or just stop going to
clubs when they get into their teens. Many believe the
attitude of non-acceptance communicated about spontaneous erections
is also why so few young (under 30) adult males in general are
involved in social nudism, and thus one reason why it has not become
much more widely accepted. (It is usually younger people who
have more energy, drive, and enthusiasm who are the trend setters
popularizing everything from music and clothing to new ways of
living and thinking, including many Christian
revivals.)
Although social nudity is becoming more popular, I
think one reason it's not much more popular is vanity. Most
people perceive themselves and others to look better in
clothes. This is why some women dread Summer and
swimsuits. They can’t hide as many of what they feel are
flaws. But even the skimpiest bikini is more sexually alluring
then plain nakedness, because the bikini draws attention with a
splash of color and titillation that would otherwise be
absent. Tan lines are noticed at a nudist club or beach simply
because of the change of color on the skin. In fact there's a
nudist joke about this. Two men are sitting by a pool at a
nudist club when a nude lady walks by with tan lines from a
bikini. One turns to the other and says, "I bet she'd look
really sexy in that bikini!" Don't let vanity keep you from
experiencing the freedom that social nudity can
offer!
Another reason is social pressure. Nudity was
very common and accepted for things like swimming before the mid
1800's, one of the major factors that ended that acceptance was
social, or class, pressure combined with clothing such as swimming
suits becoming more affordable for the masses (due to the Industrial
Revolution and mass, cheap, production in factories). The
wealthy have always used clothing as a way to separate and put
themselves above the common, poor person. In the 1800's many
rich people saw swimming nude as low class or common and thus would
wear swimming suits. So as swimwear became mass produced and
more affordable more people started wearing it to lift their image
above the "poor, indecent, common folk" and imitate the rich.
(In addition there was also much pressure from the church and state
to stop nude swimming.) Today, I believe most people don't
swim, etc. nude, simply because they don't see enough other people
doing it. There is considerable pressure to conform to the
masses and not stand out.
It feels good to be naked
(especially for swimming!), but what feels especially good is a
healthy, accepting attitude and freedom from the bondage of shame
over God's creation. Body shame has created some very
unhealthy, conflicting, negative, and I would say ungodly attitudes
about the human body. As Christians we need to let God renew
our minds with purity. In the Message paraphrase Roman's 12:2
reads, "Don't become so well adjusted to your culture that you fit
into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on
God. You'll be changed from the inside out. Readily
recognize what He wants from you, and quickly respond to it.
Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level
of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well formed
maturity in you." I believe this is all encompassing and
includes how we view and treat our bodies. Our level of
comfort with nakedness is a way of measuring whether we have a Godly
(accepting and positive) or Satanic (worldly and negative) attitude
toward the body.
A
BETTER LEGACY
Some popular "experts,” advice
columnists, and religious leaders warn that nudity in the home might
sexually over stimulate children. However studies and the
experiences of nudist families have proven the exact opposite!
These "experts" seem to be making assumptions based on societal
standards which equate nudity and sex rather than factual
information. (If a doctor makes a diagnoses based on
incomplete or faulty information, the treatment will be
wrong.) Several studies have shown, not only, no harm to
children raised around nudity, but great benefit to it in sexual and
moral development as well as self-esteem. And even far from
all of the "popular,” well known, experts agree that family nudity
is harmful. Dr. Lee Salk stated that "Being natural and
matter-of-fact about nudity prevents your children from developing
an attitude of shame or disgust about the human body. If
parents are very secretive about their bodies and go to great
lengths to prevent their children from ever seeing a buttock or
breast, children will wonder what is so unusual, and even alarming,
about human nudity."
Even the very popular and conservative
Christian family psychologist Dr. James Dobson has said "In
reference to food, you don't starve a child to death nor do you give
him candy all day long. It's balance. It's a middle
ground.” “Especially with regard to nudity in the home, I
think we want to avoid both extremes." "Parents I think should
not flaunt their nudity, their bodies; nor should they grab a towel
run for the corner and crouch when they're stepping out of the
shower and happen to be seen. I think the best attitude is to
show that you're relaxed about your own body and you're not fearful
of it and you're not embarrassed about it." Thankfully in
saying this, he is very far from saying that simple nudity is
indecent or wrong and harmful. But I believe equating nudity
to giving a child "candy all day long" may stem from the nudity =
sex conditioning of this culture. I also don't know what he
considers to be flaunting nudity (would swimming, house cleaning, or
watching TV nude be flaunting?) I don't think simply not
running for cover when seen stepping out of the shower is enough to
communicate that our bodies are acceptable, good, and decent to
children.
However perhaps, I do understand part of these
other "experts" concern (including Dr. Dobson's with candy and
flaunting), we know that in our society non-sexual nudity is not
common, in fact it is almost unheard of on TV in the movies,
etc. In fact by the time a child is eighteen they are likely
to have been exposed to over two hundred thousand acts of violence
on TV and not seen on TV even one example full frontal, unashamed,
nudity in a non-sexual context relevant to how that child
lives. If a child has ever seen any nudity on TV in a
non-sexual context at all, it was probably a show about some
primitive tribe living in a rain forest. Not exactly something
they relate too. Our television doesn't even show people in
the shower or stepping out of the shower without making sure certain
"offensive" parts are covered. Forget about honestly showing
nudity in non-sexual contexts, such as at the beach, park, pool,
gym, around the house, swimming, exercising, sunbathing, relaxing,
housecleaning, sports, etc., etc. Sexually oriented nudity in
movies and pornography are the contexts in which children will most
often be exposed to nudity (outside the home) of people in this
culture who live like they do, and that they can relate to. So
what kind of message are they getting about nudity, that
way?
The repression of public, non-sexual nudity results in
it being more exploited for sexual purposes. We and our
children are bombarded, more now then ever before, with messages
that equate nudity only with sex, not just from pornography, but
also from TV, movies, magazines, music videos, the Internet, peers,
everywhere. To top it off the message is reinforced in church,
instead of showing a positive godly use and place for nudity, the
church says it is a sin and harmful! If the only place
children are exposed to non-sexual nudity is in the home they may
(since they have no other input of non-sexual nudity) have some
trouble separating it from all the sex = nudity messages they are
bombarded with. They may also feel alienated from society
because they don't normally see anyone else nude outside their
family.
Sadly most kids in the U.S. are so uncomfortable with
simply being naked around others, that they won't even shower after
gym class or playing football anymore, they wait until they get home
alone. Yet we have among the highest rates of teenage
pregnancy and rape in the world! Clearly shame and negative
feelings about the human body are not healthy.
While nudity
in the home should be a common, accepted, healthy, everyday, thing,
that alone may not be enough to be the best value to children, or
enough to combat the nudity = sex messages of our culture. To
effectively combat these negative messages children need a larger
frame of reference. They need to see that non-sexual nudity is
acceptable and normal for other people, not just family. The
child that experiences nudity only at home and nowhere else will
likely have the perception that nudity is not "normal.” If
non-sexual nudity outside the home is common (not just of family,
but also of playmates, friends, and others) children are in a much
better position to see all of the body, and nakedness, as something
normal and acceptable. They will be better insulated against
the negative and impure messages they get about the body from the
world, and be much better equipped to develop healthy and wholesome
attitudes toward the body. (Ideally, not only should kids
shower after gym class, they should be nude in co-ed gym and swim
classes! But that is not likely to happen in today's
society.) If you have children, please, work to give them a
legacy of body acceptance, instead of body shame. Family
oriented nudist clubs are great places for anyone to become more
comfortable with their bodies, and see that nakedness can be normal,
good, and wholesome, not bad and indecent.
“Nudist clubs"
should not be necessary to promote a legacy of healthy body
acceptance. But until society comes to a place of acceptance
of public non-sexual nudity around homes and yards, parks, pools,
beaches, fitness clubs, gyms, physical education classes in schools,
sports, on TV, in the movies, etc., I feel they are necessary and
needed. While I highly recommend family oriented nudist clubs,
I will caution that some "nudist clubs" are not "family
oriented.” Remember that Satan seeks to pervert and/or destroy
anything of value. This can be seen in all other aspects of
life, including church, so it should be no surprise that it can be
seen in social nudism as well. This societies complete
repression of non-sexual, public, nudity means people will associate
it with sex by default. This situation attracts some people to
nudist clubs and beaches for the wrong reasons (usually they are
disappointed and don't stay long). There are also some places
that market themselves as "nudist" clubs that are not, they are sex
or swingers clubs in disguise. Know what a club is before you
go, most clubs associated with the American Association for Nude
Recreation are reputable.
In the beginning of the nudist
movement, in the early 1900's nudism was about a philosophy of
respect for the body as much or more than it was about simply fun
and recreation. As a result smoking and drinking were not
allowed in almost all clubs, as this went with the idea of respect
for the body. Some clubs were also vegetarian, discouraged
people from eating sugar or refined foods, had calisthenics every
morning, and generally promoted good health habits. Nudist
clubs today bear little resemblance to this. Promoting fun and
recreation brings money to the clubs faster then promoting healthy
body acceptance and respect. Few clubs have any fitness
programs or facilities, both smoking and drinking are now widely
accepted, as is junk food. With drinking often comes behavior
many parents would not want their children exposed to.
I do
not mean to sound discouraging here, actually considering that
nudity is not much more widely accepted (especially among
Christians), the moral decay of this country, and how much nudity is
associated with pornography and sex, I frankly find it absolutely
amazing that moral decay within social nudism is not a much greater
problem. (That social nudism hasn't quickly degenerated into
the depravity that some religious people assume it is, by itself
shows the inherent value of it.) Happily there are many
nudists raising their voices for maintaining higher standards.
Some clubs have discovered that a "family atmosphere" brings more
quality, stable, long-term members than a "let live atmosphere" and
therefore better long-term profitability.
If you do
find a nudist club that does not have a wholesome family atmosphere,
don't lump them all into the same category, most are good. My
words of caution come from not wanting to give people the false idea
that nudist clubs are perfect utopias. Only God can guarantee
perfection! Nudist clubs do in general have a more wholesome
and safe atmosphere than most comparable clothed beaches,
campgrounds, or resorts (although often more rustic, most nudist
clubs are nice family campgrounds rather then upscale
resorts). I would rather take a family to a nudist club then
to most clothed campgrounds, motels, etc. This may be, in
part, because people don't have to apply for membership at most
hotels, motels, campgrounds, state or national parks etc. and they
do at a nudist club. Even with the issue of drinking, I would
be more comfortable at a nudist resort with a bar than at a clothed
resort with a bar.
There are many Christians that are members
of nudists clubs, they're not hard to find as you get to know
people, and there are even a couple of clubs that are owned and
operated by Christians. Although generally not yet local,
there are some Christian nudist fellowship groups (Maybe you could
start a local one?) and a great newsletter "Fig Leaf Forum" that can
provide fellowship, help, and encouragement in your efforts to
change your attitude toward the body. It would also be great
(especially for your kids) to not only belong to a local nudist
club, but when you travel go to other nudist clubs instead of
staying at regular motels, hotels, or RV parks. For those who
don't live where it's warm and sunny all year, Wintertime indoor
nude swims are great too, a good cure for the Wintertime
blues! They are sponsored by nudist clubs in many
cities. If you travel internationally, Europe is a great place
to experience non-sexual nudity in many situations. The more
exposed you and your children are to non-sexual nudity in many
different places the better insulated you and they will be against
the nudity = sex messages Satan has put into our culture.
There is far more that is positive about most nudist clubs, then
negative.
There are some great nude beaches where you don't
have to put up with sand in your swimsuit! But since this
country associates nudity so strongly with sex, places with open
access like beaches, can also attract voyeurs and other
undesirables. Still I would go to a nude beach before a
textile one; crime is usually less then at textile beaches and the
overall atmosphere better. Europe (where non-sexual nudity is
much more accepted, including on TV, at beaches, public parks, and
pools) doesn't have much of a problem with undesirable behavior and
nudity in publicly accessible places. Hopefully the U.S. will
soon follow suit (pardon the pun!). This is something myself
and others are working toward (educating people on the problems
caused by shame and the inherent goodness and dignity of the whole
human body) so that nudity would be as publicly accepted as swimming
suits, athletic clothing, and topless men are now. We know
this would not create a perfect society, only Jesus Christ can
ensure that. But since simple nudity is less sexually
provocative than swimming suits and many other types of clothing, it
should be a better society than we have now. Examples of
societies that have accepted public, non-sexual nudity, both current
and in the past, show that it can be.
PROTECTING
OUR CHILDREN
A very real concern in today’s
society is child sexual molestation. Raising children with
accepting attitudes about the body can substantially help reduce
this concern. Experts who work in the area of child
molestation say that the extreme body shame most people have and
teach their children is a major factor in allowing child molesting
to continue to go unreported. A thirty-year Police veteran who
investigates child molesting says. "Molesters have found that
most parents have effectively taught their children that their
bodies and sex are shameful and not to be talked about.
Children are taught this to such a degree that after being molested
they are usually too embarrassed to tell anyone about it." He
says one of the ways parents demonstrate shame towards the body is
that when they must talk about "private parts" they do not use the
correct terms for the body part they are referring to. This
detective teaches that children need to know that their bodies are
good not bad and that the correct words for their body parts are not
bad words, so they can go to an adult and not be afraid or ashamed
to use the correct terms for their body parts to describe where
someone is touching them in a bad way.
One thing common among
child abuse victims is the feeling that what happened to them was
their fault. That it was because there was something wrong
with them that they were abused. Well if children are taught
shame about their and others bodies, if when they want to take their
clothes off and be naked (which all children do) they are punished
and told to put their clothes back on, if they are told its bad to
be naked, that their genitals are bad, is it any wonder that they
feel there is something wrong with them? Is it any wonder that
this would be compounded even more by sexual abuse? Sadly, in
this world, even children raised with body acceptance will not all
escape sexual abuse, but it is much more likely that if they have a
strong foundation of feeling good about all parts of their body,
that they will not be as emotionally scarred by it, blame themselves
for what happened, or feel that it happened because there was
something wrong with them.
I absolutely believe that a child
being comfortable with nudity and talking with their parents
positively and openly about Godly sex will make it so that
they 1. Will be far less likely to be sexually abused,
and 2. Are less likely to be as traumatized by it and
much more likely to tell about it if they are abused. If a
child has been taught that the body and sex are good. If
his/her parents are positive and open about the body and Godly sex,
and they know they can ask their parents questions and talk openly
about it, they are much more likely to tell their parents if someone
tries to touch them sexually, knowing not only that they will not be
in trouble, but that their parents will believe them and be on their
side. In such a situation children need to know that they will
be believed and heard. On the other hand, if parents are
uncomfortable with what their children say or ask about sex, or even
tell their children that they shouldn't talk about such things, they
are far less likely to have their children come to them if any one
has tried to abuse them. Instead of going to mom and dad for
help, they will be scared to go to mom or dad. Think about it,
if every time a child wants to play naked or asks about the parts of
their body under his/her underpants, or where babies come from,
etc., mom and dad get uptight and uncomfortable, and say "you
shouldn't do that or talk about such things", do you think they are
likely to come to mom and dad, without fear, if someone touches them
sexually?
DO
YOU BELIEVE ALL THINGS ARE PURE?
God had to send
stubborn peter a vision (see Acts 10) three times to show him that
all God made is Holy and clean. Peter (like others) had
thought the gospel was only for Jews. All others were
considered unclean and unworthy. While Peter was considering
what this vision of unclean food meant three gentiles (non-Jews)
came to the house and God told him to go with them without
doubting. This vision shows that all things that God made are
clean and Holy and it is reaffirmed in Titus 1:15,16 "To the pure
all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not
believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and
consciences are corrupted. They claim to know God, but by
their actions they deny Him. They are detestable, disobedient
and unfit for doing anything good." There is nothing
beneficial or Godly in thinking that parts of God's creation are
impure or that nakedness is indecent. But you can be sure
Satan takes great delight when we think like that!!! This
passage clearly states what God thinks of those who regard part of
his creation as impure. The Bible says that "both their minds
and consciences are corrupted" and that they are "detestable,
disobedient and unfit for doing anything good." Wow, talk
about not pulling any punches!
If after reading this, and
seeing how God regards those who call part of His creation impure,
you are still convinced that it's nakedness and not shame that is
the danger, I don't know what else to say, that could change
your mind. I could tell you that when David's wife Michal saw
him dancing before Jerusalem wearing nothing but a linen ephod
(something like a vest or bib) and rebuked him, 2nd Samuel 6:12,
14,16;6:20-23, it was she and not David that was cursed! I
could also tell you, that the people were asking if Saul was also a
prophet, after he too (Like the other prophets) stripped off his
clothes and prophesied! 1st Sam. 19: 23,24. But, at this point
(if nothing else I've said makes since) your mind is already made up
and nothing could change it. I will remind you, however, that
it is the Lord's business to judge and correct, not yours or
mine! It is our place to encourage, uplift, support, and
strengthen our brothers and sisters, not judge them. I will
also remind you of the wisdom of Gamaliel in Acts 5:38,39, referring
to Peter and John he told the high council "If this program or this
work is merely human, it will fall apart, but if it is of God, there
is nothing you do about it - and you better not be found fighting
against God!"
In Rome there where early Christians that could
only equate meat with pagan temple sacrifices, in their minds, so
they did not believe it was right to eat such meat. There
where also other Christians that did not see any problem with eating
such meat and could do so with a clear conscious. (see Rom
14) Paul instructed these people to not judge, but to accept
one another. Today, unfortunately some people can only equate
nudity to pornography and immorality; they think nudist clubs are
the same (or have the same effect) as pornography or strip
clubs. They don't see that pornography and strip clubs are
intentionally designed to excite and arouse people with the best
looking models, make up, special lighting, the most erotic and
sexual poses, atmosphere, etc. They can not accept that, in
comparison, looking at a bunch of average, imperfect, plain nude
bodies at a camp ground, pool, or beach, doing regular things,
instead of causing sexual temptation can help people accept the body
and free them from seeing nudity (by itself) as sexually
tempting. If you are one of those who cannot accept this, I
understand and accept where you are in your attitude toward the
body. I know that you are God's child, loved and accepted (as
you are) by Him. I know that you have been conditioned in this
culture to think nudity is sinful. I also know that we are all
at different points in our relationship with God. And that
HE who began the good work in us is faithful to complete
it. (Philippians 1:6) I only ask that you try to accept
and not judge myself and others that are comfortable with nudity, as
well.
If I felt that nakedness was simply more comfortable or
enjoyable than wearing clothes all the time, I would not have
written this article, and be pursuing or promoting it at all.
It would not be worth the risk of offending fellow Christians or my
family with something they believe to be sinful and wrong. I
am a naturist/nudist and promote it because I believe we have been
deceived by Satan in our attitudes toward the human body and that
God never intended us to be caught in this bondage and ashamed of
any part of His creation. I believe this shame is unhealthy,
destructive, and dangerous to ourselves, our relationships with
others and God. I believe that Satan intends to keep us in
bondage to shame and I believe Gods has called me to help free
people from it. I strongly believe that mandating that parts
of the body always be covered only serves to make those parts even
more interesting and alluring. That taking away the mystery of
nakedness by making it common can help take some of that sexual
attraction or allure away from the body and refocus it onto the
relationship, which is exactly where it should be, thereby
positively contributing to sexual morality.
We often see
immoral sex, violence, and murder on T.V., but not non-sexual
nakedness. Something is very wrong when these things or more
accepted, cause less offense, and less protest from Christians then
the sight of the naked bodies God gave us. In writing this I
hope to wake some Christians up to the fact that all of the body is
God's gift to us and we should not treat any of it as something
impure or indecent. I hope to encourage Christians to develop
more positive accepting attitudes toward the body, by accepting a
simple, pure, chaste, and wholesome nakedness. Teaching is
different from flaunting. While Paul may not have eaten meat
around certain people, he didn't have a problem writing or speaking
about meat or other controversial and upsetting, but important
issues like whether Gentles could be born again, and if they had to
follow Jewish laws including circumcision. He taught what he
knew was right, after much study and guidance from God, regardless
of whether others agreed with him or not.
WHAT'S
NEXT?
Even if what I've written makes sense to
you, you are most likely still feeling uncomfortable, maybe even
threatened by it. That is understandable, something you've
most likely believed all of your life is being
challenged. You're being asked to accept as right something
you've been taught is wrong. I understand, I've been there,
but when I got down to it, the idea of accepting God's creation made
a whole lot more sense, seemed more beneficial, and Godly, then
being ashamed of it.
So I ask you, do negative attitudes
toward parts of God's creation or thinking that nakedness alone is
sexually tempting honor God, or does it gratify Satan's desire to
distort the things of God? The Bible says in 1 Thess.
5:21-21 "But test everything. Keep what is good, and
stay away from everything that is evil. So ask yourself some
questions. Does God want us to have wholesome thoughts?
Does considering any part of the human body (that God created) to be
indecent or impure, positively contribute to the development of
wholesome thinking? 1 Cor 10:23 NIV says " 'Everything
is permissible' - but not everything is beneficial.
'Everything is permissible' - but not everything is
constructive." According to this, is nakedness
permissible? Could nakedness be beneficial and
constructive? Are negative attitudes about the body or nudity
ever beneficial or constructive? Does thinking that nakedness
leads to immoral sex or temptation, positively contribute to the
development of wholesome thinking? Most challenging of all, if
negative attitudes toward God's creation don't positively contribute
to wholesome and pure thinking, how are you going to change?
In John 10:10 Jesus said, "A thief comes to steal and destroy, but I
have come to give life - life in all its fullness." Think
about positive or negative attitudes toward the body and nudity,
what kind of attitudes destroy, and what kind would contribute to a
full and abundant life?
I don't believe that God wants us to
live in bondage to shame or any other deception, so I encourage you
to actively pursue freedom. Especially if you have children, I
encourage you to teach them, by word and example, healthy accepting
attitudes toward the body, rather then body shame. It is far
easier to prepare a child than to repair an adult. I also
encourage you to seek out other Christians who see the value of
Godly body acceptance and living free from shame over God's
creation. There is much value in fellowship with those of like
mind. You should be able to find other Christians at the
nudist clubs in your area. Even with the generally prevailing
negative attitude about nudity in most of the church, opening up
discussion about this with other Christians you already know may
bring pleasantly surprising results. One simple way to do this
may be to share this article, or direct people to this site and ask
what they think.
I believe that we can get to know God better
and love Him more by freeing ourselves from body shame and learning
to see the beauty and purity of the human body, rather than seeing
it as indecent. If you also see Godly value in nakedness and
start to pursue it, be aware, Satan would prefer to prevent your
becoming free in this (or any other) area and will likely put
circumstances, things, or people, in your path to make you question
whether body acceptance is Godly! Don't let Satan continue to
deceive you. Study God's word about this (in light of His
character, not in light of what tradition, or others say about this)
and don't let external circumstances or past conditioning sway you
from what you learn is part of God's truth. The truth
regarding our bodies is that a good God creates good and pure
bodies, that there is no need to be ashamed of. He could not
do otherwise.
No, social nudity does not guarantee sexual
morality. The only thing that can absolutely guarantee sexual
morality is Jesus Christ and the complete absence of sin. But
I have become absolutely convinced that social nudity does help to
develop positive attitudes toward, and a natural acceptance of the
body that favors sexual morality. I have also become convinced
that shame and negative attitudes toward the human body are 100%
destructive in promoting true, Godly sexual morality, and that
accepting God's creation as pure and good does allow you to get to
know God better. I hope you see the value of rejecting body
shame, working to develop pure attitudes toward the body, accepting
a wholesome, God honoring style of nakedness, and that you will join
me in living free in Christ and free from shame both now and
forever!
RESOURCES
Fig Leaf Forum An
excellent twelve page text-only newsletter offering fellowship,
edification, and encouragement to Bible-believing Christian
nudists. This is an outstanding resource for all regarding the
issues of body acceptance and nudity as they relate to Christian
faith. Since it is text only it can also be a more effective
tool to spark discussion with Christians who believe nudity is
indecent than something containing photos. POSTAL-MAIL subscriptions as of Jan, 2004 are $12.00
per year within the USA or Canada and $18.00 per year elsewhere for
ten issues.
Fig Leaf
Forum P. O. Box
1955 Winnipeg MB,
R3C 3R2 CANADA
http://www.figleafforum.com/ E-mail:
editor@figleafforum.com
To
find out about family nudist clubs near you
contact:
American Association For Nude
Recreation 1703 N. Main St. Kissimmee, FL,
34744-3396 (800) 879-6833 Internet: http://www.aanr.com/
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