Ordinary Nakedness
"Being natural and matter-of-fact about
nudity prevents your children from developing an
attitude of shame or disgust about the human body.
If parents are very secretive about their bodies and go
to great lengths to prevent their children from ever
seeing a buttock or breast, children will wonder what is
so unusual, and even alarming, about human
nudity."
- Dr. Lee Salk,
Psychiatrist |
There is a great need in western culture to advance the
notion of the nakedness in everyday life. Ha, you say,
"we have that! It is called nudism." But I say
that while nudist groups have done much to bring mixed nudity
into our culture, they have often had to retreat to a sub
culture in order to do it, and this has reduced its
effectiveness considerably.
My goal as a man contemplating nudity has always been to
demystify the female body. By doing this many boys will
be spared the dead end road of teenage sensualities that sap
our morality as young men. In my view shame fosters
illicit nudity and illicit nudity fosters shame. We try
to assuage our shame through illicit nudity, but the side
effect is that we get hooked on a certain thrill that is hard
to overcome in life even by embracing nudism. Whenever I
have encountered female nudity I have always had the desire to
see it as utterly ordinary. As a teen I remember seeing
a photo in Playboy depicting a bunch of naked people from a
distance standing on the side of a houseboat. To me this
was more exciting than all of the carefully posed "beautiful"
women put together. This photo was so ordinary.
Rather than bringing nudity down to the basal level, it
brought everyday life up to the beautiful reality of normal
nudity. No erotica, just regular folks doing regular
things, but naked. Too bad Playboy never pursued that
kind of nudity in its pages. Now many nudist media have
racier pictures than that.
The chasm is large between mainstream culture, where
wholesome everyday nudity among the sexes occurs almost never,
and nudism. This chasm is where the grassroots of social
nudity will flourish, not in nudism. As I raise my kids
my goal has not changed. I don't need nudism in order to
demystify the female body for my children. Instead,
household nudity is very easy to implement, especially if the
children have not yet been born. Household nudity is, in
my view, something that very few western households embrace,
and that even fewer Christian western households would
remotely consider. Forget about nudism; these households have
not even been out of their bedrooms naked once.
Household nudity is what will fill this chasm. It is
free, it is safe, and it is effective. An ounce of it
will be the ton of well-being later in life in a way that
nudism could never be. For what is our goal?
I suspect that the majority of people I see at nudist sites
did not grow up in households where nudity was ever allowed
outside closed doors. It is often reflected in their
children, who either will not accompany them, or will not
disrobe with them because their children see a certain
inconsistency between their parents' public nudity and their
lack of household nudity. How hard it is for a person to
make the jump from no nudity in their past to walking among
the nudists on a public beach or private club! There
really is no middle ground for this in our culture; no place
where wholesome nudity can flourish with childhood. How
many nudists would not be caught naked in front of their
parents? How many nudist adults have not raised their
children up with any nudity in the home? It is
unrealistic to expect people to truly accept nudity as
wholesome when there is such a disconnect in their nudist
lives. How many nudists have shielded their nudity from
their relatives, church friends, and coworkers?
Most. Nudity does not enjoy any respect in our
culture. When I make a passing comment to the effect
that indicated the likelihood that mixed nudity could of
occurred it is usually met with stunned silence, as if the
supreme faux pas had been committed. People are
sensitive to nudity and how it is used in society. The
nudist movement has not improved the cultural perception all
that much in half a century.
Wholesome nudity shouldn't be a recreational sport, nor a
pricey club membership, nor a restful haven for alternative
lifestyles if it cannot first be accepted by the next
generation. Because in my home, my generation is where
the buck stops, and the buck naked starts. I don't need
hedonism. I don't need nude pictures of pretty girls
strutting. I don't need to be a member of a club.
I don't need body acceptance. I don't even need to be
naked all that much, because ordinary nakedness around the
opposite sex even occasionally, especially in the teen years,
is far more than 95% of the rest of the population is doing
now. I just need to understand the role nudity plays in
everyday life and be sensitive to how God would like me to
pursue it. If people would have the boldness to raise
their children with simple household nudity they would realize
a much greater ability to make the jump to nudism. With
just household nudity, and the rare visit to a public nude
site, my children will fare better than most kids with regard
to shame and their perception of the human body, and
ultimately their own purity in sexual matters. And it
all started in the home, not a nudist club or beach. Through
the reconciliation of Christ in the believer's life a person
has received the license to keep the doors open in the home,
to allow nudity to flourish where it is the most practical and
safe, in the refuge away from prying eyes and the world.
Either we can be Christian Nudists, or we can be naked
Christians. Naked Christianity starts in the home in
those situations where it is most practical. Because
isn't the goal of nudism to ultimately reject shame by making
the term nudist obsolete?
Article submitted by J
I hadn't really
intended to add whole pages written by other people, but
within the first week, this is already the second one (The
first, being the excellent article from Paul M. Bowman on
Pedophilia).
The only thing I
might differ on is the emphasis on just family, but my
Daily
Living article addresses that. Nudist clubs are fine
for what they are, but they are NOT and NEVER will be part
part of most peoples daily life. This article is right
on, thanks to J for submitting it.
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